Soulmate, even as I finish writing the word a red squiggly underlines it to indicate that the word doesn't exist or should at least be separated by a space. What do you think? Do you think soulmates exist or is it just some concept that the masterminds of Hollywood have us buy into. Well, I'm here to tell you that soulmates do exist. I'm also here to tell you that you'll probably never find yours.
Before I begin, I should probably give you my definition of a soulmate. It's most likely very similar to yours. It's the realistic idea that there is only one person for you out there. Someone who you connect with on every facet of life - physical, emotional, intellectual, and. sexual.
Now, to prove to you that they exist. According to the United Stated Census Bureau, approximately 7.11 billion people are living in the world today. Let's call it an even 7. Split that number in half and, for arguments sake, you have 3.5 billion men and 3.5 billion women. Now, I'm going to suggest to you that your soulmate is mixed within that other 3.5 billion. Here's the obvious problem, most are not financially equipped enough to travel the world and meet that other 3.5 billion. With that, soulmates aren't impossible to find, they are however, improbable.
I know what you're thinking: "Sh*t, that math adds up and it's depressing." Don't worry, there's good news. sort of. Identifying who your soulmate is much easier than finding them. Your solumate is someone that you are most compatible with. To all those currently in a relationship, who are thinking. "Well, my partner and I share a lot of things in common," consider this: there is a list - a soulmate list.
Everyone has their own personalized list. Your soulmate would, obviously, be at the top your list. Here's the harsh reality; most, maybe all, end up marrying their number 3 or 33 or 333 or 3,333, but never their number 1. Why? Because most people end up settling. They settle for what's convenient for them at that particular stage in their life. I'm going to suggest to those in relationship that you started said relationship because the other person was easily accessible - they lived near you or worked with you Your soulmate isn't supposed to be this easy to find. Nothing worth having comes easy, right?
If you are in a relationship, I'm not trying to pick on you. What I'm saying is, keep an open mind and don't secretly convince yourself that you're with your soulmate because you've been together since high school or that you've tried looking. Time is irrelevant and you were probably looking in the wrong places. I promise you that if I presented you with an all-inclusive 'round-the-world ticket, that your Facebook relationship status would change in time because of the different places and people you will experience.
Let my try to simplify the above. It's like shopping. You enter a store hoping to find something that you can wear for a long time to come. You get to a rack and see something that looks like it's exactly what you're looking for and it's the last one hanging. You look at the tag and realize that it is one size too big/small. You should leave it, but you don't know if you'll ever find something quite like it again. So, you buy it and subsequently take it to your tailor to make it fit. You're happy with the outcome, but know that one day the alterations might come undone.. My advice to you, don't settle because it's the last of it's kind; wait for or go find the perfect fit.
In closing, I know I said that you'll probably never find your soulmate, but I challenge you, despite the aforementioned odds, to find your number 1.
